(…continued from part two…)

(3)            What does our traditional belief system on marriage hold? Does a woman not get thrilled by the singular thought of being transformed into a Mrs. Somebody or Someone? She would have shamed her detractors the very second her third finger is a marital ring adorned. It has always been their traditional ‘best days of their lives!’ Another very important issue that finally shuts up the gainsaying mouths of envious enemies is when the protrusion of the stomach engenders a parturition and it is said of her, “She is not an arid ground. She has her own offspring as an incontestable proof!” But I want to believe that the carnal satiation of coition is the best untold story of matrimony. The man, of course and the woman too, now have the spiritual legality to enjoy sex and to the fullest. “Yeah! I can do, have all the sex anytime, day, anywhere, sex! Yes!” Is this what marriage is all about: physical, expression and consummation of carnality?

            Genesis 2:24 “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” The adjective ‘one’ which is ‘echâd (ekh-awd’) is, properly, in this context: united.’ There is no gainsaying the fact that ‘one flesh’ is truly indicative of the consummation of the conjugal relationship. Their union, however, finds its united strength –spiritually– only in Jesus. Nowhere else. This is the reason why it must (true marriage) be for only Christians. Amen.

            Marriage adumbrates the espousal of the Church to the Lamb. It takes us back to the Garden of Eden when the LORD God is both the Father of Adam and his Father-in-law. How? Adam married God’s daughter. Being created directly by God’s sculptor’s hands Adam became God’s son. The sole desire of the couple must be to God. Is the marriage of Jesus not to the Church? To them, therefore, is the marriage made for. Is the Church made of Muslims, Hindustani, Taoists, Buddhists and other non-Christians? Not at all! Christians are not just church goers. They are the born again children of God, whose sins have been washed away by the precious blood of the saving Lamb.

            The union must serve its purpose. How? Ephesians 5:25 teaches, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” Love is not a feeling. It is a commitment. A great man of God defines love saying, “A love called out of the heart of the lover on account of the value placed on the object of his love.” For believing the finished work of salvation by Jesus, God places a huge value upon the regenerate soul. The husband, understanding the love of Jesus, goes to do likewise to his wife. The ‘love’ expressed is the Greek agape, ‘an unconditional affection.’ There is, therefore, no excuse for not loving the wife. None whatsoever. Ephesians 5:22 tells the woman, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” What is the Greek word for ‘submit’?  It is hupotassō (hoop-ot-as’-so): ‘to arrange under, to subordinate, obey.’ Hupotassō comes from hupo (under) and tasso (arrange properly). The wife is, ergo, expected to package herself, properly, under her husband.

                Get born again by saying this simple prayer:

“Dear heavenly Father, I come to You now in the name of Jesus Christ. I believe in my heart that Jesus is the Son of God. I believe in my heart that Jesus died for my sin. I believe that You raised Him from the dead. I believe that Jesus is LORD and I receive Him as my LORD and my Saviour. I give God all the glory. Amen”.

Lubricate the new birth by: 1. Praying always (in the name of Jesus) 1Thessalonians 5:17.

2. Read the Bible everyday (Joshua 1:8).

3. Go to Church regularly (Hebrews 10:25).

4. Tell others about Jesus (Mark 16:15).     

(…to be concluded…)

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Read the concluding part 4 here

Conjugal Gist (3)

1372004275_Forbidden fruit (always the best)

…for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die [Gen 2:17].

 (…continued from part two…)

*3*            An ungodly humanistic perception accounts for Genesis 3:6 “And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.” It was a personal decision, outside God’s protocol, that destroyed not only their marriage but the entire globe. They saw what God was not seeing (blasphemy!) They thought what the good Lord did not harbour in His divine mind; and they made a pollutive contact with a cursed thing.


It was not the eating per se, it was actually the disobedience that killed them. Being the first human criminal, the woman, according to spiritual reality, had assumed a certain superiority over her husband. That pleased Lucifer, the tempter. Conjugality had received satanic blow, giving it another construction. But I thank God for doing something. The LORD put it into the man to rename his wife. Genesis 3:20, “And Adam called his wife’s name Eve; because she was the mother of all living.” The namer is the owner of the entity. The husband got back his headship role.

The woman, God’s daughter, stood in absolute support of the marriage that God instituted. She refused to follow Lucifer and the great city eastern of Eden. God’s marital business had come to stay. The original couple lived till death did them part, akin to eternity of it. Amen.


The Bride must come, in submission to the call!

The maintenance of a healthy conjugal relationship stands on two limbs: submission and love. Ephesians 5:22, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Ephesians 5:25, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;” The phrase ‘submit yourselves’ is, in the Greek, hupotassō (hoop-ot-as’-so) ‘to subordinate; reflexively to obey.’ Hupotassō comes from hupo (hoop-o’) ‘by, under,’ and tassō (tas’-so) ‘to arrange in an orderly manner, that is, assign or dispose (to a certain position or lot).’ From these definitions, the divine conjugal expectation is to see the woman doing a packaging of herself, then, place it under the subjection of her husband.

This didacticism, coming from a man, like me, will probably raise an air of chauvinistic satiation. I did not write the Bible. It looks demeaning to women’s liberation oriented person. It is apropos to bring the woman to this refining subjection. As the first to make an ungodly entrance into sinfulness, she acquired an uncanny procacious disposition. Technically, she gained the role of her husband’s boss, as far as Lucifer’s evil kingdom is concerned. In God’s kingdom, the wife is the follower of her husband. Not the vice versa.


‘Love’ is the Greek agapaō (ag-ap-ah’-o) ‘to love (in a social or moral sense).’ Agapaō is the verbal construction of the famous agapē (ag-ah’-pay) kind of love. Agapē is defined by one man of God as: “A love called out of the heart of a lover on account of the value he has placed on the object of his love.” The love of the husband towards his wife is that of sheer commitment. Love is not a feeling. It is a committed state of being.

A long time ago when I heard Pastor W. F. Kumuyi of Deeper Life Christian Church, taught that: “even if your wife is a witch, you must love your wife,” I shook my head with a vigorous objection, followed by a resounding, “No!! How can?” Now that I have known the Bible so well, I do agree, one hundred and fifty percent, with Pastor Kumuyi. The sons of the man of the Eden Garden have every reason to journey into a reminiscing of the woman’s plunging of mankind into sin. He is very likely to think that a love commitment to this wife could derail him.


The daughter of Eve, having been regenerated, is expected to adhere, strictly to God’s protocol, the Bible, the same way God expected the woman of Eden to remember the briefing HE gave to her as HE walked with her to Adam, the man. To the wife I counsel, “Submit to the man, your husband. Even if his instructions sound stupid, just agree with him. After you have done your commanded submission, and you think he is wrong, in fact if he happens to be truly wrong, as far as he has not told or ask you to do what is scripturally evil, go to Jesus, talk to Him, He knows what to do.” The king’s heart,” as the Bible reveals in Proverbs 21:1, is in the hand of the LORD, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will.


                You can be part of the conjugal gist by being born again. Say this prayer from your heart, believing every word. Dear heavenly Father, I come to You now in the name of Jesus Christ. I believe in my heart that Jesus is the Son of God. I believe in my heart that Jesus died for my sins and You raised Him from the dead. I confess with my mouth that Jesus is Lord, and I receive Him as my Lord and my Saviour. I give God all the glory, Amen. (…to be continued…)

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